Monday, December 2, 2013
The first step to creating your wedding vows is to think of everything important to both you and your beloved, not only what you’ve been through as a pair, but what you’ve helped each other accomplish. Although your partner and the people around you know of your love for one another, wedding vows serve as the foundation for how you begin your life as a married couple. You know your partner better than anyone, therefore coming up with something creative and meaningful should be easily achieved.
The second step to creating your wedding vows would be to collectively put down in writing everything you’ve come up with. Remember that the main goal of your wedding vows is to profess your love for your beloved through speech. Open your mind and let the words come to you, after all, this is love. Just make sure to speak from the heart so what you’ve created will be memorable.
It is important to remember every couple is different and at the end of the day the choice of whether to go with traditional or self-written vows is up to the couple. The best advice that anyone could give a couple struggling with this decision - follow your heart.
As a bride or groom to be, you spend hours, days, months or years planning your special day. Just when you sigh in relief, as you seem to have everything organized and prepared, it dawns on you. You have forgotten to prepare your wedding vows. For many women, these vows can be huge deal. Your wedding vows are the promises and statements you make before tying the knot, which will be the basis for your lives together forever.
In non-religious weddings, vows can be chosen or created by the couple. It is common that getting married in a religious setting, you are often constrained to use the vows of that tradition’s ceremony. If you’ve chosen to create your own vows for the ceremony, the most important thing to remember is that these vows must have meaning, specific to you and your beloved.
Modern vows include meaningful song lyrics, poems, and TV or movie quotes. What you should include are memories or statements that both you and your partner can relate to on the same level. This is why many couples that create their own vows include a statement about how and where they first met and what they felt like emotionally or physically when they realized the other person was “the one”.
A common traditional wedding vow speaks about spending the rest of your life together, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish. They speak about unconditionally loving your husband or wife for the rest of your lives together, until death do you part.
When composing your own wedding vows it is important to speak about your love, your devotion, your goals, your understanding and your commitment to and for that person.